The Wedding Blues – What happens after your wedding day
I never knew Wedding Blues was a thing, until it happened to me.
I'm anxiously scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed while simultaneously refreshing my Instagram page and listening for the ding of a new email in my inbox. It's been almost a week since the happiest day of my life… Since I stood in front of my closest friends and family promising forever to the love of my life.
And yet, while I'm supposed to be happy and excited about my new life, I can't help but feel a little sad. Tears start to form in my eyes and I angrily swipe them away as they start falling. I don't understand why I'm sad when I'm supposed to be happy. If people knew I was sitting here, acting this way, they'd probably think something was wrong with my marriage. But it's not! It's the best decision I've ever made. So why then, do I feel so depressed?
What are the Wedding Blues?
It's hard going back to reality when you've spent so many months planning and preparing for your wedding day. All the excitement and anxiety that has built for this one occasion. Your days and dreams have been filled with ideas and thoughts on how to make this day the best day ever.
Every waking hour is filled with preparations and planning to make sure all the details for your big day is correct. For months, you've been busy with wedding preparations and planning. And then finally, your big day is here. You get to see all your work come to fruition and you get to say "I DO" to your best friend. And then it's over. You knew it was going to be over, but when it is, it comes as a shock.
Depression and sadness settles in your gut and you don't understand why. It's called the Wedding Blues. It's something extremely real and common, but rarely talked about.
Suddenly you have all this extra free time. The time you used to spend wedding planning is now just free time. And now it's time to get back to reality. Yes, you now get to call your fiancé your husband or wife. And yes you both now have beautiful rings on each of your left hands symbolizing your commitment and promise. But your work days are now filled with just work. Your afternoons and evenings are spent at home packing away instead of pulling out your wedding decorations.
It's ok to be sad
The Wedding Blues can hit you out of nowhere and without warning. But I want to tell you that it's ok. It's ok to be sad and depressed. Your body is merely getting used to not running on anticipation and excitement. However, it is important to remember that these feelings do not devalue your marriage or your feelings for your spouse.
“I was really confused with my emotions following the wedding. I was so incredibly happy I married Ryan, but I was sad the day came and went so quickly. You spend a lot of money and time on the wedding, but no one ever tells you how sad you’ll feel once it’s over,”
Leslie P., a former client.
It's a chemical reaction in your brain and you just need to give your mind and body some time to get used to it. It may last for a day, a week or longer. We are all different and we all react differently.
But in the end, you married the love of your life and now you just have to find something else to fill your free time with. Something else that will occupy your brain day and night. And once you do, happiness, contentment, and love will fill your heart, body and brain again!